October 20th 2012 till date has been a wonderful learning experience. The Guru is learning and teaching at the same time. Her name is Saakshi, my beloved Daughter. Everyday is a test to see if we remember the previous days lessons. This is a test which you cannot afford to fail, for, you don't want to see Her crying over something that She clearly taught you.
Among the many lessons, I found the lesson on Greed & Jealous the most interesting. At 8 months, She did not want Her family members to carry any other baby. She would come crying and mostly try to hurt the baby we were holding. There was a debate amongst us if it was a feeling of insecurity or was She being jealous. I was convinced that She was jealous. Had it been the sense of insecurity, She would have come asking us to hold Her, however, that was not the scenario.
Weeks would have passed by since She played with a few toys, though everyday, She would dig them out of the bag, selectively keep them apart and play with the rest. It's only when another kid joins Her and wants to play with the toys that She hadn't touched for weeks, Saakshi jumps, grabs that toy from the other kid and starts playing with it. We for sure did not teach Her this behavior nor have we exposed Her to this kind of a behavior in Her surrounding. So, how did She learn this?
An experience as recent as yesterday, we gathered for lunch with my MVC friends. I knew there would be 2 other kids of pretty much her own age, hence, I asked Vidya (my wife) to buy three dairy milk chocolates. After lunch, I made Saakshi give a chocolate each to them (to which She was hesitant) and asked Her to keep one for Herself. Though She initially gave, She immediately wanted all three and was chasing the other two kids. Isn't this greed and where on earth did She learn this?
Learning to Live a Life is never taught and is never learned through lessons. You are born with all the Learning's and through time, you test each, and adopt the ones to make you the best in the place where you live. Greed & Jealous at the right time and right place is a survival skill that you're born with. As parents, we only attempt to make You understand what that right time & place is.
Among the many lessons, I found the lesson on Greed & Jealous the most interesting. At 8 months, She did not want Her family members to carry any other baby. She would come crying and mostly try to hurt the baby we were holding. There was a debate amongst us if it was a feeling of insecurity or was She being jealous. I was convinced that She was jealous. Had it been the sense of insecurity, She would have come asking us to hold Her, however, that was not the scenario.
Weeks would have passed by since She played with a few toys, though everyday, She would dig them out of the bag, selectively keep them apart and play with the rest. It's only when another kid joins Her and wants to play with the toys that She hadn't touched for weeks, Saakshi jumps, grabs that toy from the other kid and starts playing with it. We for sure did not teach Her this behavior nor have we exposed Her to this kind of a behavior in Her surrounding. So, how did She learn this?
An experience as recent as yesterday, we gathered for lunch with my MVC friends. I knew there would be 2 other kids of pretty much her own age, hence, I asked Vidya (my wife) to buy three dairy milk chocolates. After lunch, I made Saakshi give a chocolate each to them (to which She was hesitant) and asked Her to keep one for Herself. Though She initially gave, She immediately wanted all three and was chasing the other two kids. Isn't this greed and where on earth did She learn this?
Learning to Live a Life is never taught and is never learned through lessons. You are born with all the Learning's and through time, you test each, and adopt the ones to make you the best in the place where you live. Greed & Jealous at the right time and right place is a survival skill that you're born with. As parents, we only attempt to make You understand what that right time & place is.
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